PHOTOS BY Hillary Ehlen
We’ve been through this before. It’s a New Year and that means, hopefully, a new you. Each year, we get a sense of gratitude and excitement that this year will bring a clean slate for us to unfold a fresh start on to. It’s a wonderful, uplifting time of year. Filled with hopes to rebuild, regenerate and make it bigger and better than the years before.
We set standards for ourselves and hold a vision of the person we are going to become this year. Yet, as the years before, we find ourselves stumbling along the way, falling short and eventually tossing in the hat.
So, what is it that holds us back from following through and manifesting the goals we set out to at the turn of the year? Maybe it isn’t the goals, maybe instead it’s how we approach them. Here are some ways to rewrite your goals in a more manageable way so that you can finally accomplish your New Year’s Resolutions once and for all.
Often times, we set goals according to the opinions, validations and expectations of others. It’s no wonder these resolutions fall through the cracks quicker than spilled milk. Get quiet and get clear. What is it that YOU desire? What is it that YOU want? Set aside the goals others set out for you. You just might be surprised by what comes up. When a goal comes to mind, ask yourself a simple question: “Is this a goal that I truly desire? Or is this a goal that will make the people in my life happy?” When we set and aim for goals that lift our hearts up, we tend to stick to them with more ease, joy and most importantly, see them through. So, what is it that YOU really want?
Let go what doesn’t serve you…
Take some time to look around you and see where you are carrying burdens or grudges. Forgiveness is a heavy weight to bare but when you’re working on renewing and rejuvenating all areas of your life, this one needs to be brought to the surface as well. Work on letting go of grudges, whether they are big or small. Remember that you can forgive someone just by shifting how you choose to react and respond. Take care of your side of the road and they will take care of theirs. More importantly, is there anything you need to forgive yourself for? Often times, we are the hardest on ourselves. Start by letting go of judgment of flaws, vulnerabilities and limits.
Give yourself room to grow…
Be realistic about your goals! Afterall, you’re only human. Set goals within your limits that are feasible and reward yourself when necessary. If you’re a busy mom with a family to keep on schedule, plus a job that doesn’t leave much room for extra time, instead of making your goal be “to have a hot dinner on the table every night,” start by aiming for three hot meals per week. Instead of saying, “yoga every day,” opt for “meditate and practice breath work when anxiety is present.” The broader, the better. At least as you’re starting out. Make it a habit and then let that habit grow for ultimate success.
Gratitude, it’s the motherload of all motherloads…
Gratitude will truly skyrocket any goal from mundane to extraordinary. When you lead with a grateful heart, you’ll notice things come more easily to you. Be grateful for all that you have, as well as all that you have yet to receive. When you are grateful, you attract abundance, joy, peace and awesomeness into your life.
Taking care of yourself through movement, eating well and managing stress is by far the greatest form of self-love. When you take the time to take care of YOU, everything else just falls into place. When you’re attempting to achieve goals from a place of lack, struggle and exhaustion, nothing gets done. In order to truly achieve your goals and make waves of positive changes, you must start by putting effort into taking care of you. Once you master that, you can master anything you set your mind to.
New Year’s Checklist For Accomplishing Your Goals
- Spend time in quiet, getting clear on what YOU desire to accomplish.
- Forgive and release those things that don’t serve you.
- Set realistic goals that can grow into bigger ones!
- Give thanks for E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.
- Spend some time taking care of yourself. Cook healthy meals, do things that make you happy, manage stress, get lots of sleep, laugh and play.